|Posted on 6 November, 2017 at 8:20||comments (0)|
Exactly one year ago, I had just been dismissed from my fantastic new job, after only 8 months.
I was devastated, distraught and I remember feeling lost and totally panicked.
As someone who likes to be in control of their life (due to previous past experiences) this event rocked me to the core.
Right about now I had now I had absolutely no desire to get out of bed and face the world.
However, I had to as I have two daughters who needed taking to school, so I got up and carried on as usual, even though I felt like I was walking around in a fog.
Whilst the girls were at school I sat at home and cried. After about a week of mourning and getting fed up of a headache which accompanied it, I felt strong enough to meditate.
The days before I had just wanted to sit and wallow in my own self-pity and had quite enjoyed hiding out under my covers if I'm honest, telling my self I deserved it after working flat out for the past 4 years.
One of the best moments during this time was that I went and collected my children from school at the usual school day end of 3.45pm. I had never done this before; our typical collection time was 6 pm or after. The look of delight on the girl's faces was one I'll always remember, and in the car, I heard my youngest say, "I love having my mummy back."
My eldest was now at senior school and the youngest in year 5. It hit me how much of their formative years I had missed either working or at home but with my head in my laptop or on the phone, not giving them the full attention they so rightly deserve. It was time for me pick myself up, dust myself off and to be there for them. It was time to focus on what really matters.
So I took the first step to recovery and meditated for 15 minutes, I felt so much better afterward I was inspired to take better care of myself and committed to begin journalling every morning, do some yoga or go for a walk and get back on track.
As another few days past I looked at my home and set about de-cluttering which empowered me to gain more energy, space, and clarity. I gave a lot of our stuff to charity which was cathartic.
With each passing day, I felt stronger and stronger until one day I had to face what I was going to do about my job situation. My final paycheck would last me about 3/4 months which bought me some time. The easy solution was to go back into project management. I loved the job, but it was a mega amount of stress and seriously long hours, I was a 41-year-old single mum, and I had said more than once this job was for a younger, person with no outside work committments.
So, if not project management, what next? I didn't have a clue, but suddenly I felt excited. I had a blank page in front of me; I realised I could anything I wanted! I now had time to sit and dream about my future instead of stumbling from day to day on a reoccurring treadmill, feeling numb and not experiencing life.
Then the questions came rushing into my head. What do I love? Can I do it for a living? What can I do for a living that I love and will pay the bills? How do I go about setting up a business in that sector?
I began to mind map all the things I loved to do and hadn't had the time to do, along with things I liked to do a child such as painting and getting creative. I wrote down my strengths and weaknesses and could feel the beginnings of a plan coming together.
I created a vision board and set myself goals and hung them up in my kitchen to see every day; I hadn't had this much fun in ages!
My greatest passions are meditating, Reiki, EFT, yoga, spirituality and helping people. Funnily enough, in a senior management training course my previous employer had sent me on, we did an exercise around where we saw ourselves in 5 years time. My result was that I would be doing Reiki for a living. I realised the Universe had conspired to make this a reality.
Blossom Wellbeing Cheshire was born, my Practice is a place of peace, calm and serenity and all I can tell you is the past 12 months have been the most rewr interesting, challenging, exciting, incredible months I have had in years.
Now I have built my foundations I am now fired up and planning the next 12 months!
This morning, I started my week off with a hot yoga session at Yogalife. My teacher, Lucy, told us a quote form Zayn Malik, which prompted me to write this blog.
I hope you find my story helpful and hopefully inspirational. Sometimes we feel stuck and don't know how to move forward. If I can change my life, you can too.
I offer one-to-one coaching, workshops and holistic treatments to help you create fulfilling personal and professional lives.
|Posted on 17 September, 2017 at 7:10||comments (3)|
I am the very proud winner in the "Outstanding Holistic Therapist Category" in the 2017 Centre Of Excellence Awards!
The application process to enter the awards was tough. I had to complete a lengthy questionnaire and then film a 2-minute video explaining why I thought I should win this award. I did this in between running my business, studying, looking after the kids and running the house!
The application process was very insightful. It made me think and take stock of what I have achieved, something I don't normally have time to do.
This time last year, Blossom Wellbeing Cheshire didn't even exist. Last November, eight months into an amazing new job, I was dismissed without warning.
As a single mother and provider of two daughters, I hit rock bottom.
However, I am extremely resilient and determined. Now I am so glad I listened to my gut feelings and followed my dreams and opened my Wellbeing Practice.
I have had the most incredible ten months; It is so rewarding to help clients become better versions of themselves and reduce worry and stress in their daily lives.
I have filmed educational videos, absorbed massive amounts of knowledge, passed numerous exams, become a public speaker and even teach classes.
I have been a guest on podcasts and was even interviewed on a New York Radio show!
Recently, I was appointed preferred provider for a private health group, and this award is the icing on the cake!
When people tell you, "You don't fit in".... Take it as a compliment.
When people tell you, "It won't work"....Carry on.
When people tell you, "Not to bother".... Listen to your inner self.
When people tell you, "You are incompetent".... Study more.
When people tell you, "You have no client base".... Build one.
Most of all...when no one else does...believe in yourself.
Face your fears, make mistakes, accept full responsibility, learn from them and grow.
Realise that ongoing personal development is key to being a success
My business has flourished in a very short period, because of the courses on offer at The Centre of Excellence. I had previously trained in the treatments I offer at Blossom Wellbeing, COE taught me how to build my business professionally, whilst increasing my skill base.
I am so grateful to The Centre of Excellence and proud of all the students and everyone who entered these awards. Hours of study go into completing each course, and I believe everyone deserved to win.
|Posted on 14 June, 2017 at 9:35||comments (7)|
Most people look forward to Half-term holidays and don't get me wrong, I do. When I used to be a Project Manager, I used to wish I could be with my kids during their holidays. I love working for myself now and being able to spend more quality time with the children. However, during the holidays most people go away and so do my clients.
I had a choice last week; get down because there was little work booked in or make the best use of my time? I decided I needed to strike a balance between having fun with the kids and still being productive for my business.
Now you know I love to practise what I preach, so the first thing I did was get out my journal and wrote down my goals for the week. I find if I spend time writing out my goals at the beginning of the week it gives me clear direction for the week ahead.
I set the intention to rise early, every day, at my regular time and do my work before the kids got up, I would then carry on once they had gone to bed.
I woke up at 5.45am and did my usual power hour of meditation, self-reiki, gratitude and journalling. Then I set to work until the girls rose at about 9 am (I let them lie in as a treat).
This gave me a good few hours to get my to-do list ticked off.
During the day we focused on what I call my "5 steps to happiness."
The five steps include:
1. Getting outdoors in the fresh air to boost health and wellbeing.We went for a walk every morning and also did some gardening and went to Crocky Trail (which was so much fun in the sunshine).
2. Healthy eating. The children love choosing healthy, fun recipes off Pinterest to make. They especially enjoyed this no-wheat pizza, so much so we had to make it twice!
3. Electronics Ban. This one doesn't go down very well; I have to be honest! I try to get the kids doing as many activities as possible to limit the time spent on their devices. I find in doing this-this promotes more interactive family time and also a better night's sleep for them.
4. Get Creative! We love to draw, colour, paint and make things out of the rubbish we collect. My eldest is doing a science project on space, so we built a space station. We found it quite therapeutic.
5. Laughter. Every night we snuggled up on the couch and watched a funny film together. Laughter is so important as it boosts the immune system and helps to reduce stress and tension.
When I look back at what I managed to accomplish during the week, I think I made great use of my time.
Not everything was quite perfectly balanced. I could have possibly spent more time on housework.
But life's too short, and the kids were only off for one week!
|Posted on 19 May, 2017 at 15:50||comments (0)|
This week I am thrilled to share my very first guest blog from the fabulous Fanny's Real Food.
I suffered for years with digestive problems, due to previous work related stress.
I have experimented with different healthy eating plans and recently came across the Fodmap plan, which is how I connected with Fanny.
I also believe what we put into our bodies greatly affects our moods and how our bodies assimilate them.
Here she shares her advice and tips on to stay healthy even with a busy schedule, which most of us have is this now frantic world.
2017 for most of us is a world of non-stop, never ending merry-go-round of rushing from job to job, chore to chore; rushing to work, sitting in traffic, rushing home to tend to the kids or the partner or the sick relative or even just the house.
Perhaps madly trying to squeeze in some exercise and somehow managing to find time to gobble down a reasonable healthy, cobbled together meal.
Many of us have very little time to spend thinking about ourselves, to take time out to improve our lifestyle, our diet or our health, despite being very aware that really we should.
As a personal trainer and nutrition coach, one of the biggest obstacles my clients claim that stops them making the changes they need to their diet or exercise regime to get the results they want is TIME!!
And I agree, if you need to make changes to your life, it does take time and thought and planning.
However, I also know that once you have put in that little bit of initial effort you can maintain these behaviours with very little effort.
PLUS I also know that it’s worth it! It really is possible to make small changes to your life that will add up to create big results.
So, here are my top tips for improving your diet and fitness.
1. Make your health your priority. Make a decision to create change, because until you do, nothing will happen. Decide to input a little bit of extra effort to reaching your goals and then make it happen!!
2. Plan your weekly meals. Start by thinking about where you are going to be through the week ahead and plan your meals based around this.
Once you have decided what you are going to be eating, do your shopping and make what you can ahead of time.
Poor food choices are often made out of habit, or when we are hungry and reach for the closest thing to hand, so put a stop to unconscious eating and plan to succeed!
Front loading your effort to once a week will mean that you have to spend less time thinking about and preparing meals at every breakfast, lunch and dinner.
In the long run you will save yourself a lot of dithering time and running round looking for missing ingredients!!
3. Batch cook and create a store of healthy, homemade meals in your freezer.
My favourite time saver – whenever you’re cooking a meal or snack that will keep or freeze well, always make double.
This way you will start to build a stock pile of healthy, homemade ready meals and snacks for NO EXTRA EFFORT!!!!
4. Plan your weekly exercise. If you’re looking to build exercise into your life, don’t just expect it to happen or for the free time to magically present itself to you – book it in!!!
Just as with your food, look at the week ahead and decide when you are going to fit in your exercise.
Even write it in your diary and treat it like any other appointment – don’t let other things get in the way.
5. Increase your incidental activity levels whenever you can.
Walk to work or to the shops or even just park the car further away. Take regular breaks from your desk.
Take the stairs instead of the lift. This is FREE EXERCISE(!) and all of these things will add up to increase your daily and weekly calorie expenditure with very little extra effort or calls on your time.
If you would like help improving your diet, fitness or health or reaching your body or performance goals, get in touch for nutrition coaching and/or personal training.
You can also visit my food blog for access to hundreds of healthy recipes and top tips.
Email: [email protected]
Tel: 07966 765521
|Posted on 25 March, 2017 at 6:00||comments (0)|
I have noticed an increase in the percentage of people who fear travelling on a plane. Mainly, to me to overcome their fear of being out of control, trapped or the plane being unsafe.
At one end of the scale, for some this fear is so real, they avoid travelling, and even talking about it can produce physical reactions, sweating, stomachache, nausea and headaches.
At the other end of the scale, people will travel by plane, although the experience is very unpleasant and merely a means to an end to get to their destination.
One of my favourite therapies I offer, at Blossom Wellbeing Cheshire is EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique. It is a non-invasive, mind/body tool that may remove physical and emotional blocks from your energy system with nothing more than your fingers and intention to feel better.
It may be the simplest, fastest ways to heal from almost any kind of trauma, whether it happened yesterday or 50 years ago.
EFT is so easy to learn and apply, gentle, forgiving and non-judgemental. It can be adapted to any situation and can be taught to children and adults alike.
I love seeing a client, who arrived at the beginning of their session very stressed, leaving relaxed with a smile on their face.
While results can sometimes take time with EFT, it is possible to get immediate and long-lasting relief from phobias, anxiety, stress, physical pain and allergies. It is best described as "acupuncture without needles."
I have treated clients where in just a couple of sessions the fear of flying is tapped away, leaving them free to enjoy their travels.
We have all experienced past events, a trauma of some sort and these can lead to anxiety and intense feelings which we carry through our whole lives. However, I can help you let go of this.
What to expect from your first EFT session:
We begin with a free consultation, which can be carried out face to face, over the phone or via Skype.
This consultation covers your general health and wellbeing, your primary concerns, any symptoms you may experience, any areas you would like improvement in and also what you would like to accomplish with this treatment.
I will then fully explain how EFT can help you.
We will perform some breathing techniques and visualisation to centre you and make you feel safe.
As we begin, you may feel your anxiety is high, as you safely imagine flying. We will then tap through this trauma until you are able comfortably to imagine taking a whole flight without feeling stressed.
I will also teach you how to tap yourself should the need arise before, during of after taking a flight. (e.g. if any turbulence occurs in-flight you can tap yourself).
I recently volunteered in a charity fashion show. I had no fears at all until I was about to go on stage. My heart started pounding, I was shaking, and my adrenaline was pumping.
As I waited to go up the steps, I tapped myself on the side of my hand, my stress levels dropped, and I was free to enjoy taking part in the show, and it was great fun!