Penelope Silver


Burnt Out to Blissed Out

Posted on 20 October, 2018 at 5:00 Comments comments (0)

One thing that helps me flourish (and keeps me sane) as a modern, single, working mummy is meditation. It is one of the best tools, I have learnt and a core component of my life and business.


Psychology Today says;

"Meditation is the practice of turning your attention to a single point of reference. It can involve focusing on the breath, on bodily sensations, or on a word or phrase known as a mantra. In other words, meditation means turning your attention away from distracting thoughts and focusing on the present moment. Meditating is deceptively simple."


I like to meditate twice a day once, first thing in the morning to give me an energy boost to start the day and then just before my evening meal, to reset my energy as I go into the evening.


It's especially useful as a boost when I have been looking at my laptop screen too long too, and my eyes are tired and sore or I"m feeling frazzled.


I usually meditate for either 10/20 minutes at a time, which is very manageable, I have even been known to meditate in the car on my lunch break!


Sometimes I repeat a mantra, sometimes I listen to a guided meditation, or sometimes I will sit in total silence.


I also use mindfulness meditation with my EFT clients during treatments.

For those new to meditation, I highly recommend the FREE 21 Day meditation experiences with Deepak Chopra and Oprah Winfrey, as it's the closest thing to Transcendental Meditation I have found.


This latest series is called Energize Your Life: Secrets for a Youthful Spirit. and it starts on Monday, 29th October, 2018.

You can register via this link Energize Your Life: Secrets for a Youthful Spirit 

"Are you ready to reclaim the energy of youth, so you can enjoy daily experiences more fully—accomplishing more with less effort? Join Deepak on a journey to maximise energy, live a healthier lifestyle, and tap into your inner youth, no matter your chronological age. Explore a unique mind-body-spirit approach so that you can shift your awareness to the most vital qualities of youth: freshness, open to possibilities, playfulness, and joy. Youth is not skin-deep; it is soul-deep. Find your way to the ever-present, boundless source of energy and lightness of being inside of you" Deepak Chopra


I recommend this to all my clients, and the challenge is beautifully produced, easy to follow and about ten mins long, so extremely easy to fit into a busy schedule.


If you are looking for a powerful stress buster meditation is for you. Regular practice results in decreased anxiety and depression reduced insomnia.


Comment below with your personal experiences of practising meditation or tag a friend who would benefit from trying these meditations.

What can Reiki do for me. A short story.

Posted on 3 July, 2018 at 9:45 Comments comments (0)

I went to have a coffee with a friend last week, she was visiting from London and we hadn’t seen each other for a good few months so there was plenty to catch up on!

“Where have you been, you look so well and lovely and brown?” she asked as I sat down opposite her in one of our coffee shops in the village.

“Nowhere, I have just been enjoying some of this amazing weather we have been having recently and I have started going for Reiki once a month too, so I feel quite energised and less tired”

The conversation switched to talk of work, kids, partners and I could see she had something on her mind and she seemed to be a little anxious.

She began to tell me that she had no time for herself lately, she hadn’t been looking after herself properly, she said she felt ‘Burnout’. I listened as one problem leads to another and that my friend sounded a little depressed. I waited until she finished telling me that her father in law had died a few months previously and that there was a lot to sort out and that things were quite stressful at home.

“Sorry to ramble on, I bet you think I am really sad”! she said as she half laughed and started to finish the coffee that must have been cold, she looked very preoccupied.

“Not at all, it’s really good to talk and you know I am always here for you if you need anything” was my response.

“Thanks, that means a lot, just don’t know what to do with myself, I need a big magic wand to sort me out” she cajoled.

I sat and checked my phone as I had another appointment, but I could tell my friend needed a break.

I have such a lot going on myself, running my own business, family life and making sure I look after myself, wellbeing is so important to me, but I knew my friend was not in a good place… I didn’t want to be patronising by suggesting she went for some Reiki, it isn’t a magic wand, but we all live in the real world, and we know that just doesn’t exist.

“It’s been so good to see you, and you look so radiant, I don’t know how you do it with your busy life, what’s your secret?”

“There is no secret, but I can tell you that since I met my Reiki Practitioner it really has changed my life, I have a Reiki Treatment once a month and it just kind of balanced me out, I feel energised, and it helps me to sleep so much better.”

“How do I get a Reiki Practitioner?” she quickly asked sounded really desperate.

“Well I did some research a while ago after reading an article in a women’s well-being magazine, and I thought I would give it a go.”

I told her that I had been going through a stressful time at work and was starting my own company and not sleeping well. I said that I found a couple of local practitioners through some local groups on Facebook and tried two practitioners, they were slightly different from each other but the one I chose made me feel really comfortable so I stuck with her, and I was keeping it up on a monthly basis as I felt it was a great investment in my general mental health and day to day living.

I said that she needed to do some research in her area of practitioners and seek out the best one for her, I advised her that a Reiki practitioner never make recommendations outside of their expertise and certainly should not give you any grandiose claims or make promises to heal you of life-threatening illness or conditions.

She straight away said

“I am not dying, I am just exhausted and never switch off.”

“I think it will help you in so many ways, you must try it, when you find the right person you will know intuitively that they are the right practitioner for you and make you feel comfortable and relaxed in their presence.”

“What does this Reiki business do to you though” she sounded puzzled.

“Usually on the first visit the practitioner will go through a few questions with you to get a bit of background, but they wouldn’t be evasive, and I said they will assure you of what is going on throughout the treatment, whether they touch you or not, it depends on the practitioner.”

My friend looked a bit confused and I assured her that it would be a simple hand touch on the body where the practitioner might need to focus on a certain area and that is was quite normal and all part of the treatment.

“It makes you feel so relaxed when you are in the treatment, you escape from everything and sometimes you fall asleep” I said.

“Wow, that sounds amazing, just what I need” she replied.

“It has so many benefits to it though, the practitioner will be able to find out through certain areas of your body what is actually going on with you, stress, anxiety, problems with your health and all kinds of things, they can then make suggestions for you”

“Wow, it really does sound like a magic wand” !!


Did you know an hour of Reiki is the equivalent to 3 to 4 hours sleep?

If you would like to book in for Reiki or Distance Reiki you can book here Scroll down to the bottom fo the page and select eithe rthe 1 hour or 1.5hr option.

Have you ever felt like everything is against you?

Posted on 15 February, 2018 at 2:25 Comments comments (0)

You get up in the morning and set the intention to have the best day, thinking you are on a high wavelength as you start your day.


Then for some unknown reason, something will happen to throw you off balance.


Perhaps you become angry as you can't find your car keys, you leave the house five minutes later than you should have done, the traffic is heavier than usual on the way to work, and you get there late and get told off by your boss?


Then you open your emails and a find whole ream of problems which needed rectifying like yesterday?!


You are getting more and more stressed and knock your coffee over in a rush to finish a report while answering a colleague's questions.


It's now 9.35am, your head is banging and you are frazzled amd overwhelmed. What can you do?


You have to control or the day will run you.


It's time to take a deep breath. If you can, go outside for five minutes and get some fresh air.

Take control of your breathing and begin to slow it down. Consciously breathe in through your nose for four counts and out through your mouth for four counts.


Do this until you start to feel yourself relax.


The conscious slowing down of the breathing activates a relaxation response and fools your brain into thinking it is ok and no longer in a stressful situation.


Before you go back to work, ask yourself who needs me most in my A-game? Then focus on working on that one task until it has been completed.

Aim to be mindful in each task you begin.


Another trick you can try is to go into the bathroom and meditate for 5 minutes. I am a big fan of meditation.


Not the nicest of places to go I know, but you are in a private space, where you can't be seen or interrupted and who is going to question you or stop you from going to the bathroom?


Close your eyes and begin to breathe slowly.


As you breathe in and out, repeat the word "release" in your mind. Do this for five minutes before returning to your workstation.


I also recommend working for no longer than 45 minutes at a time; you are probably laughing at me now.


I'm not going to lie I have been a victim of working non stop to get my workload done.


However, you will produce better work and be more on top of your game if you take regular meditation breaks, even if just for five minutes.


Why not try these techniques for one week and comment on your results below? I would love to know how you get on.

If you would like to book a Wellbeing Consultation Zoom Call with me please schedule your appointment here:

Top 5 Tips for a better night's sleep:

Posted on 27 June, 2017 at 8:20 Comments comments (0)

-Do you long to sleep for a full 8 hours?

-Do you currently wake up during the night and lie there watching the clock until your alarm goes off?

-What would it mean for you to get a good night's sleep?


One of the main reasons clients book in with me for Reiki is because they have trouble sleeping.

I think most people have experienced this at one point or another.

For me it was when the babies woke up in the night, I would settle them back down, get back into bed and then lie there willing myself to fall back to sleep.

Other times, when I was a Project Manager, I would be exhausted to the point of tears, but lie there unable to go to sleep, for all the lists of thing I needed to do or remember to do.

Perhaps something would pop into my head which I hadn't included in a brief; it would worry me until I got out of bed and added it to the piece of work (even if this was at 2/3/4am).


I tried sleeping tablets, but they made me feel like a zombie the next day. What's the alternative?


It's well reported a regular bedtime routine should help, but what else can we do?


Here are my personal tried and tested Top 5 Tips for a better night's sleep:


1. Switch off electronic devices at least 2 hours before bed.

Before you say, "Dream on!" or laugh at me because you know you have seen me on Facebook late at night. Honestly, this helps.

A few weeks ago, I was up late working, excited about launching my new class. I had been on my laptop all day and was still on it at midnight. My eyes were stinging and sore, and I finally had to close the lid to my laptop. I was absolutely spent. However, to my great surprise, my eyes did not want to shut. They kept popping open. Very frustrating, believe me!!!

Then I remembered my Mother's words about not using your laptop before bedtime... It turns out my Mother was right... as usual :(


2. Drink a hot milky drink before bed.

When I was little, my Mother always used to give me warm milk before bed. I found it very comforting.

My bedtime drink is something I have carried on as an adult. However, instead of just the warm milk I now add a blend of Tumeric, Cumin, Ginger & Pepper, as this helps to soothe any inflammation in my tummy.

Sometimes, if my tummy is sore (due to gastritis), I have to swap to herbal tea instead (such as oat flower, lavender & lime flower).

Both work well for me.


3. Take a warm bath with essential oils

I love to have a bath before bed; you need to make sure it's not too hot though, as this can have an adverse effect.

I use my sleepytime essential oil bath salt in my bath, for a luxurious soak. If I'm feeling really indulgent, I turn the light off and light some candles. The soft lighting helps.

4. Keep a notebook by the bed

Some nights the thoughts in my head are going a million miles and hour and do not want to stop!

I have taken to keeping a notebook on my bedside table and writing down anything which is niggling me.

My thought process behind this is if I can get it out of my head onto paper hopefully I will sleep!


5. Self-Care

In our busy lives, we can often forget about looking after ourselves. I got to a point where I needed someone to hold my space to allow me to heal from the stress I had been going through.

This was how I found Reiki. The relief it gave me was the reason I went on to train to Reiki Master Level. I wanted to help others the way Reiki had helped me.


“All too often in today’s current fast paced living I see clients who are buckling under the stress created in everyday life, their energy has become blocked and unbalanced”.


Many of my clients come to me because they have trouble relaxing and sleeping, this has a knock-on effect in their daily lives. They report feeling anxious, depressed and unable to function properly.

During their Reiki treatment, they can relax and let me look after them for that hour.

Most fall asleep, and some even don't to leave at the end of their session!


I have recently collaborated with Zoe Oughton, from Relaxing Reflexology.

We are excited to announce our new treatment "Rei-Flexology"!


“We always want to find ways to delight our customers, and the combination of Reiki and Reflexology is the ultimate, new, total deep relaxation experience”.

Let us take you on a journey of deep relaxation not only to leave your feet feeling like you are walking on a cloud but also to massage your soul and nourish your energy centres (chakras).

Hopefully, a restful night's sleep will follow.

To find out more about Rei-Flexology and to book and appointment please click here: