|Posted on 14 February, 2018 at 5:45||comments (0)|
Happy Valentine's Day my beautiful Blossoms!
Now, I have had it drummed into me for many years Valentine's Day is just commercial, and many people hate it.
As a hopeless romantic, I absolutely love the idea of it; I always thought my life was going to be filled with hearts and flowers; the reality has been slightly different.
I think I went through my whole school life never getting a Valentine's card. The only thing I did receive was feelings of sadness and rejection by the end of the day.
In the year's that followed those feelings of dread began to appear even before the big day.
I remember once when I was newly married, giving my husband the money to give to his secretary to go and buy me a Valentine's day card.
The card never materialised, those feelings of sadness and unworthiness consumed me, and I left and retreated home to my mum's, without saying a word, expecting him to come after me (seems naive now lol).
Four days later at 7.30am, he arrived on my parent's doorstep with and an armful of cards for me.
There were Happy Birthday cards, Get Well cards, Good luck in your New Home cards all kinds of different cards.
The last was a RIP card which had written inside, "You want cards you got ******* cards".
Whatever your thoughts on Valentine's Day, what I have learnt over the years, is that there is one type of love that is the most important above all others; Self-love.
I'm not talking about the conceited kind of love.
Self-love is the hardest kind of love of all to learn. It took me until I was 41 to start to even like myself, let alone love myself.
Self-loathing and self-sabotage seem much easier somehow?
Last night, I went to a lecture in Manchester on The Science of Self Esteem by Dr David Hamilton.
It was excellent and a lot of what he was saying he could have been talking about me (and many others in the room).
David educated us on the different experiments which have been conducted to measure the effects of self-love on the brain; we even tried one ourselves.
In his book, I Love Me, published by HayHouse, David presents 27 powerful exercises to help you retrain your brain:
- Increase your own self-worth
- Connect with your authentic self
- Attain greater sense of happiness and general wellbeing
- Create stronger and more connections with others.
You can't control what others think or feel about you, but you can control what you think and feel about yourself.
Learning to love yourself is the most important love of all (reminds me of a song!).
Others can't love you authentically unless you love yourself first.
Today, celebrate the most important and sacred relationship of all, the one you have with yourself.
For me, I am super lucky today; my girls have thoroughly spoilt me... Apparently they were beside themselves with excitement when they found everything in my Blossom brand colours! They are so adorable!
Just in case, you don't get a card today, Happy Valentine's Day!
Love & Light,