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From Breakdown to Breakthrough

Posted on 17 October, 2018 at 5:20 Comments comments (0)

Have you ever been in a relationship where you knew you were desperately unhappy, but you couldn't put your finger on why?


A relationship where you loved that person so much you would have done anything for them and were blinded by that love?

 

But there was a constant niggling, that something just wasn't right, you were both going in different directions and no matter how hard you tried to fix that situation the further apart you seemed to drift.

 

You felt like you had no choice but to carry on, but there is always a choice. In the end, it comes down to carrying on the illusion or taking back your soul and reconstructing your life.

 

The reality of it is your spirit is way stronger than you can ever imagine and when you come to accept this all the things that aren't working in your life have to fall away, to make room for the new.

 

This is SO scary, the thought of leaving your whole life behind, everything you ever wanted, to start again, totally new from scratch you already know how vulnerable and afraid this is going to make you feel.

 

The fear paralyses you and so you stay a bit longer and try to work even harder at making things work. In a weird way, it's easier to stay.


But the niggling comes back even more forceful, like a churning, whirling, nervous, sicky feeling in your stomach you just can ignore...you are annoyed at yourself as deep down you know you are giving away your power to someone who doesn't appreciate it or want it.

 

Anyway, you have been told often enough how useless you are, not good enough, pretty enough, clever enough, you wouldn't be able to survive on your own, you have young babies, so you must stay.

 

The fear takes a grip on us and makes you feel like everything is too hard to face.

 

Then one day, the Universe has enough of your indecision and tooing and frooing and takes matters into its own hands.

 

The event is, jarring and although it seems, hideous and totally unfair at the time, serves its purpose, you finally step out of victim mode and you leave.

 

This is when the magic starts to happen, something inside you starts to grow like a powerful force you find reserves of energy and strength you didn't know you had.



When you push past the fear you will be amazed at how resourceful you can be, you learn to fly!

 

It feels exciting and liberating to stand on your own two feet and you realise you aren't going to shrivel up and die, you can do anything you want to, the rest of your life is up to you!

 

The churning, nervous feeling in your stomach is replaced by butterflies of excitement as you start to think for yourself, dress the way you want, do your hair the way you want, get a job to support yourself and find a safe, new home for you and your children.

 

When you step away from toxic, negative people and set your mind to something and have a burning need to do it, you can move mountains.

 

All the material trappings mean nothing compared to your freedom and it's important you learn how to support yourself and believe in yourself enough to know that you can.

 

Each of us has unlimited power inside of us, you have to claim it and begin healing and transforming your life.

 

Learning to love and honour yourself if the greatest gift of all. If you don't, how can you expect anyone else to?

 

I am here to tell you, you have strength, determination and resilience, I have walked that path and survived.

 

This kind of relationship with yourself also spills over to every area of your life whether it be a personal or romantic relationship, money or work... It's not the outside influences that need to change it's what's inside you that needs to change.

 

This can be a bitter pill to swallow, initially, but once you do...watch the magic happen!

 

Try this mantra,

"I am whole. I know my personal power and use it as a force for good in all life."

 

If you would like help with setting boundaries, working on reclaiming your dignity, honour or integrity, become healthy, empowered and successful, I have a breakthrough offer which may be of interest to you.

Click on the link to find out more;

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She Is Strong But Exhausted

Posted on 26 September, 2018 at 7:10 Comments comments (0)

I am seeing more and more ladies coming to me for energy healing who have on the outside a perfect life, amazing career, beautiful family, everything they could want but are beginning to feel burnt out, stressed, have high anxiety and beginning to struggle to manage their normal day to day routines.

As a Holistic Practitioner, I take into consideration the whole person, including physical, mental and spiritual aspects, when treating a health condition or promoting wellness.

I employ complementary methods and alternative approaches to health in my practices, such as Reiki, EFT, Mindfulness, meditation, movement and the use of therapeutic grade organic essential oils.

I strongly believe in the benefits of integrating Complementary and Alternative Medicine with a Conventional Healthcare Practice and I have a passion for energy medicine and science-based healing.

Energy healing is excellent for healing any physical, mental, emotional and spiritual issues of any kind and it gives wonderful results.

If you would like to learn more about the benefits of energy healing please contact me here.



Yoga You Time with Karen Goldman

Posted on 18 June, 2018 at 7:10 Comments comments (0)

This week, I would love to introduce my beautiful friend, Karen Goldman.

Karen is my hot yoga teacher, ex-recruitment manager, and a single mummy of three (I have no idea how she does it, I only have two!).


Karen and I instantly connected and I am thrilled to announce she has agreed to be a future guest on my new wellbeing podcast show, so be sure to listen out for that episode... Once we get talking, we don't stop! Lol.



 

Going to a yoga class carves out a moment in your week that is just for you! It’s time for personal observation of your physical and mental state.

 

It’s a time for reflection and a time for you to let go of physical and emotional residue that is left behind by your hectic schedule.

 

There are many different ways to practice yoga, and each teacher has a unique way of presenting these techniques.


A Yin, restorative or slow flow yoga practices embrace the relaxed side of the posture. Instead of recruiting muscles to stabilise a posture the asanas are performed mostly on the ground and are supported by props like bolsters, blankets, blocks and straps. Relying on the props to ‘hold’ the shape of the posture the student can fully relax their body — removing all physical effort.

 

If you know, you need to slow down, and you want to connect to a slower pace of movement and connect with your body, mind and emotions these styles of practice can be really beneficial.

 

They are also fantastic for people who find more dynamic styles of yoga too physically demanding.

 

Training the physical body is similar to training the mind - it takes time and consistent effort.

 

Training the mind is important because everything that happens in your life starts in your mind!

 

Our thoughts become words, our words become actions, and our actions become our relationships, projects, accomplishments, regrets and triumphs.

 

Your thoughts are the beginning of the manifestation of your life. You are - what you think!

 

When we first sit down and close our eyes we ‘see’ our thoughts - a whirlwind of feelings, wants, dislikes, memories of the past and our imaginations of the future.


A mind is often a messy place! If our mind is cloudy - full of confusion, desires and powerful emotions, it is difficult to be useful in anything that we do.


We are a slave to our emotions, and this leads to a life full of turmoil and distress. Master your mind, and you can do anything!


Practising yoga even once a week can help to negate the residue that life leaves behind. You may never be able to do a headstand or sit in meditation for an hour on the floor with your legs crossed but who cares.


If you spend an hour a week doing some light stretching, relaxing breathing exercises and just being still you will notice a profound change in your awareness of both yourself and what’s going on around you.

 

You will manage stress better, your balance, strength and flexibility will improve, your ability to concentrate will grow, you will sleep better, and you will strengthen your immune system.


Before we can settle our thoughts first, we must learn to master where we place our attention.

 

Training our attention is a simple matter of practising concentration exercises.

 

By deepening our ability to focus our attention, we will become more effective in everything that we set out to do.

 

Observing what is happening in your mind, on the way to settling our thoughts, will also teach you a lot about you.

 

When you decide to take on the practice of yoga and meditation that is precisely what we are doing. You turn your attention inward, using various techniques and spend time observing ‘where you are’ - physically, emotionally and mentally.

 

The result is a return and reconnection to Self,

Leaving feeling clear, grounded and present.

 

If you would like to connect with Karen, you can find her at Yoga Life Wilmslow & Altrincham.

YOGALIFE

 

Karen is also available for private yoga tuition.



Why you should love yourself this Valentine's Day!

Posted on 14 February, 2018 at 5:45 Comments comments (0)

Happy Valentine's Day my beautiful Blossoms!


Now, I have had it drummed into me for many years Valentine's Day is just commercial, and many people hate it.


As a hopeless romantic, I absolutely love the idea of it; I always thought my life was going to be filled with hearts and flowers; the reality has been slightly different.


I think I went through my whole school life never getting a Valentine's card. The only thing I did receive was feelings of sadness and rejection by the end of the day.


In the year's that followed those feelings of dread began to appear even before the big day.

 

I remember once when I was newly married, giving my husband the money to give to his secretary to go and buy me a Valentine's day card.

 

The card never materialised, those feelings of sadness and unworthiness consumed me, and I left and retreated home to my mum's, without saying a word, expecting him to come after me (seems naive now lol).

 

Four days later at 7.30am, he arrived on my parent's doorstep with and an armful of cards for me.

 

There were Happy Birthday cards, Get Well cards, Good luck in your New Home cards all kinds of different cards.

 

The last was a RIP card which had written inside, "You want cards you got ******* cards".

 

Whatever your thoughts on Valentine's Day, what I have learnt over the years, is that there is one type of love that is the most important above all others; Self-love.

 

I'm not talking about the conceited kind of love.

 

Self-love is the hardest kind of love of all to learn. It took me until I was 41 to start to even like myself, let alone love myself.

 

Self-loathing and self-sabotage seem much easier somehow?

 

Last night, I went to a lecture in Manchester on The Science of Self Esteem by Dr David Hamilton.

 

It was excellent and a lot of what he was saying he could have been talking about me (and many others in the room).

 

David educated us on the different experiments which have been conducted to measure the effects of self-love on the brain; we even tried one ourselves.

 

In his book, I Love Me, published by HayHouse, David presents 27 powerful exercises to help you retrain your brain:

- Increase your own self-worth

- Connect with your authentic self

- Attain greater sense of happiness and general wellbeing

- Create stronger and more connections with others.


 

You can't control what others think or feel about you, but you can control what you think and feel about yourself.

 

Learning to love yourself is the most important love of all (reminds me of a song!).

 

Others can't love you authentically unless you love yourself first.

 

Today, celebrate the most important and sacred relationship of all, the one you have with yourself.


For me, I am super lucky today; my girls have thoroughly spoilt me... Apparently they were beside themselves with excitement when they found everything in my Blossom brand colours! They are so adorable!



 

Just in case, you don't get a card today, Happy Valentine's Day!

As always,

Love & Light,

Penelope