|Posted on 17 October, 2018 at 5:20|
Have you ever been in a relationship where you knew you were desperately unhappy, but you couldn't put your finger on why?
A relationship where you loved that person so much you would have done anything for them and were blinded by that love?
But there was a constant niggling, that something just wasn't right, you were both going in different directions and no matter how hard you tried to fix that situation the further apart you seemed to drift.
You felt like you had no choice but to carry on, but there is always a choice. In the end, it comes down to carrying on the illusion or taking back your soul and reconstructing your life.
The reality of it is your spirit is way stronger than you can ever imagine and when you come to accept this all the things that aren't working in your life have to fall away, to make room for the new.
This is SO scary, the thought of leaving your whole life behind, everything you ever wanted, to start again, totally new from scratch you already know how vulnerable and afraid this is going to make you feel.
The fear paralyses you and so you stay a bit longer and try to work even harder at making things work. In a weird way, it's easier to stay.
But the niggling comes back even more forceful, like a churning, whirling, nervous, sicky feeling in your stomach you just can ignore...you are annoyed at yourself as deep down you know you are giving away your power to someone who doesn't appreciate it or want it.
Anyway, you have been told often enough how useless you are, not good enough, pretty enough, clever enough, you wouldn't be able to survive on your own, you have young babies, so you must stay.
The fear takes a grip on us and makes you feel like everything is too hard to face.
Then one day, the Universe has enough of your indecision and tooing and frooing and takes matters into its own hands.
The event is, jarring and although it seems, hideous and totally unfair at the time, serves its purpose, you finally step out of victim mode and you leave.
This is when the magic starts to happen, something inside you starts to grow like a powerful force you find reserves of energy and strength you didn't know you had.
When you push past the fear you will be amazed at how resourceful you can be, you learn to fly!
It feels exciting and liberating to stand on your own two feet and you realise you aren't going to shrivel up and die, you can do anything you want to, the rest of your life is up to you!
The churning, nervous feeling in your stomach is replaced by butterflies of excitement as you start to think for yourself, dress the way you want, do your hair the way you want, get a job to support yourself and find a safe, new home for you and your children.
When you step away from toxic, negative people and set your mind to something and have a burning need to do it, you can move mountains.
All the material trappings mean nothing compared to your freedom and it's important you learn how to support yourself and believe in yourself enough to know that you can.
Each of us has unlimited power inside of us, you have to claim it and begin healing and transforming your life.
Learning to love and honour yourself if the greatest gift of all. If you don't, how can you expect anyone else to?
I am here to tell you, you have strength, determination and resilience, I have walked that path and survived.
This kind of relationship with yourself also spills over to every area of your life whether it be a personal or romantic relationship, money or work... It's not the outside influences that need to change it's what's inside you that needs to change.
This can be a bitter pill to swallow, initially, but once you do...watch the magic happen!
Try this mantra,
"I am whole. I know my personal power and use it as a force for good in all life."
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