Breakups can be tough, but one of the hardest parts is the fear of seeing your ex with someone new.
Even if you know the relationship wasn’t right, this fear can leave you feeling anxious, rejected, and stuck in a cycle of painful thoughts.
It’s natural to feel this way, but you don’t have to let these feelings take over.
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tapping is a simple yet powerful tool that can help you calm your mind, release emotional tension, and regain your sense of balance.
Why Does The Fear of Seeing Your Ex With Someone New Feel So Bad?
Imagining your ex with someone new isn’t just about them—it’s about how it makes you feel.
Often, this fear is tied to deeper emotions like:
Self-doubt: Wondering if you weren’t good enough.
Rejection: Feeling replaced or left behind.
Uncertainty: Questioning what the future holds for you.
These emotions can trigger your body’s stress response, leading to a racing heart, overthinking, and a feeling of emotional overwhelm.
But the truth is, this fear doesn’t define your worth, and you can overcome it.
What Is EFT Tapping, and How Does It Work?
EFT tapping combines gentle tapping on acupressure points with affirming statements to calm the nervous system and help you process difficult emotions.
By tapping on key points like the side of your hand, under your eyes, and the top of your head, you send calming signals to your brain, interrupting the cycle of stress and fear.
The best part? You can do it yourself, anytime, anywhere.
How to Use EFT Tapping for This Fear
Follow these steps to start using EFT tapping to ease the anxiety about seeing your ex with someone else:
1. Recognise Your Emotions
Take a moment to notice how you feel. Is it fear? Sadness? Anger? Rate the intensity of your emotion on a scale from 1 to 10. This helps you track your progress as you tap.
2. Create a Setup Statement
Start by tapping on the side of your hand (the karate chop point) and say:"Even though I feel anxious imagining my ex with someone else, I deeply and completely accept myself."Repeat this three times, focusing on your emotions.
3. Tap Through the Points
Gently tap on each point while saying phrases that match your feelings. Here’s an example:
Eyebrow: “This fear of seeing my ex with someone else.”
Side of the Eye: “It makes me feel rejected and hurt.”
Under the Eye: “Why wasn’t I good enough?”
Under the Nose: “I feel anxious and overwhelmed.”
Chin: “But I choose to release this fear.”
Collarbone: “I choose to believe I am worthy of love.”
Under the Arm: “I let go of the anxiety about my ex moving on.”
Top of the Head: “I focus on my healing and happiness.”
4. Repeat and Reassess
After one round of tapping, pause and notice how you feel. Has the intensity of your emotion changed?
Repeat the process as needed until you feel calmer and more centred.
Why EFT Works for Breakup Anxiety
EFT tapping isn’t just about reducing stress in the moment—it helps rewire your brain’s response to triggers like imagining your ex with someone else.
Over time, this practice can:
Reduce the emotional charge tied to distressing thoughts.
Build your self-compassion and sense of self-worth.
Shift your focus from the past to your own growth and healing.
Important Disclaimer
While EFT is a powerful tool, it’s important to take responsibility for your own well-being when using this technique.
EFT is still considered experimental, and results can vary. If deeper issues arise, or if you feel overwhelmed, consult a qualified therapist or practitioner.
This blog offers general guidance and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health care.
Always seek the advice of a qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your health.
Take Back Your Power
The fear of seeing your ex with someone new can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to control you.
By using EFT tapping, you can release these fears, regain your confidence, and focus on the future you deserve.
If you’d like personalised support, I’d love to help. Book an EFT or Reiki session with me, Penelope Silver, at my Alderley Edge practice, and let’s work together to bring peace and clarity to your journey.
Remember: Healing takes time, but you’re stronger than you think.
With tools like EFT, you can move forward with grace and confidence, creating space for a brighter, happier future.
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